In 'His Porn, Her Pain,' sex therapist Marty Klein explores the complex dynamics between pornography and intimate relationships. Through real-life stories and expert insights, he reveals how porn can impact both partners—often in unexpected ways. The book challenges societal assumptions and offers a candid look at desire, connection, and conflict in modern love. Klein advocates for open communication and understanding as key to navigating the often fraught intersection of sexuality and emotional health. Prepare to rethink intimacy and discover the hidden truths behind the screens.
By Marty Klein
Published: 2016
"In the intersection of desire and discomfort, we discover not just the pain of our choices, but the potential for profound connection and understanding."
Written by an award-winning author and veteran sex therapist, this practical, innovative, and often passionate book addresses the explosion of pornography use, advises couples on defusing conflict about it, guides parents in helping their kids deal with it, advises people concerned about their use of it, and shows how honest talk about sex can resolve America's "porn panic." When you first logged onto the Internet in the 1990s, did you ever wonder, "What do you suppose would happen if the United States were flooded with free, high-quality pornography?" We now know the answer, says Dr. Marty Klein, as this is exactly what took place 15 years ago. Written by an award-winning author and veteran sex therapist, this practical, innovative, and often passionate book addresses the explosion of pornography use, advises couples on defusing conflict about it, guides parents in helping their kids deal with it, advises people concerned about their use of it, and shows how honest talk about sex can resolve America's "porn panic." So what did happen when Internet porn flooded America? The rates of sexual assault, divorce, and child molestation declined. And yet various religious groups, politicians, some feminists, anti-trafficking activists, and many marriage counselors talk unceasingly about the damage porn viewing is doing to our society. They have created a "PornPanic" that has demonized the recreation of some 60 million Americans. Americans are always ready for new reasons to feel guilty and ashamed of their sexuality, and Internet porn is the newest reason. Wives and girlfriends worry that they can't compete with it; teens use it as a misguided substitute for sex education, often disturbed by intense adults-only imagery; and psychologically vulnerable people get caught up in hours of compulsive porn surfing every night, feeling isolated and inadequate as a result. Fortunately for his many readers, however, using clear reasoning, clinical expertise, and political savvy, Klein shows that for most people, porn is not the real problem. With the experience gained from 34 years of doing therapy—that's 35,000 sessions—Klein asks a simple but profound question: when we talk about porn, what are we really talking about? This book eases readers' minds as Klein addresses common concerns and debunks common myths while identifying what we should be concerned about. Most importantly, the author explains how we can heal America's obsession with porn by engaging in honest talk about sex—something he knows is neither simple nor easy. The text includes sample conversations to help adults talk to each other about pornography, and suggestions for parents on how to talk to their kids about porn—healthy discussions to help their kids develop "Porn Literacy." This book offers honest, thorough, expert information desperately needed by a nation of people driven to panic about pornography.
Marty Klein is a respected author, educator, and speaker, known for his insightful explorations of sexuality, relationships, and maturity in the modern world. With several notable works, including 'Sexual Intelligence', 'The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka' and 'Sacred Pleasure', Klein combines psychological insights with practical advice, advocating for open and honest discussions about sexuality. His writing style is characterized by its clarity, wit, and a strong emphasis on empathy, making complex topics accessible and engaging for a diverse audience. Klein's work has been instrumental in promoting sexual health and well-being, and he continues to be a leading voice in advocating for informed and respectful communication in intimate relationships.
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His Porn, Her Pain
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