The Defining Decade

In 'The Defining Decade', Meg Jay argues that our twenties are a critical period for personal and professional development, often overlooked by young adults who are in a stage of exploration. Through compelling stories and research, she illustrates how choices made in this decade can shape one's future trajectory. Jay emphasizes the importance of embracing challenges, building relationships, and making strategic career moves. With her insightful guidance, readers are encouraged to harness the power of this transformative decade rather than drift through it. This thought-provoking book is a rallying cry for those in their twenties to redefine their paths and create meaningful lives.

By Meg Jay

Published: 2013

"The 20s are not a throwaway decade; they are the defining decade of your life."

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Our "thirty-is-the-new-twenty" culture tells us the twentysomething years don't matter. Some say they are a second adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. Dr. Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist, argues that twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation, much of which has trivialized what is actually the most defining decade of adulthood. Drawing from a decade of work with hundreds of twentysomething clients and students, THE DEFINING DECADE weaves the latest science of the twentysomething years with behind-closed-doors stories from twentysomethings themselves. The result is a provocative read that provides the tools necessary to make the most of your twenties, and shows us how work, relationships, personality, social networks, identity, and even the brain can change more during this decade than at any other time in adulthood-if we use the time wisely. THE DEFINING DECADE is a smart, compassionate and constructive book about the years we cannot afford to miss.

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Meg Jay

Meg Jay is a clinical psychologist and author known for her insights into the lives of young adults. She gained widespread recognition with her critically acclaimed book "The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter – and How to Make the Most of Them Now," which emphasizes the importance of the twenties as a crucial developmental period. Jay's writing combines personal anecdotes, psychological research, and practical advice, making her work both relatable and informative. She is also the author of "Supernormal: The Secret World of Outsider Kids," where she explores the experiences of individuals who thrive despite adversity. Jay's engaging style and profound insights resonate with readers, encouraging them to embrace their potential and navigate life's challenges.

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Authors
Meg Jay
Published
April 2013
Publisher
Twelve
ISBN
0446561754
Language
English
Pages
272
Genres
Goal SettingSelf-HelpOvercoming AdversityPersonal Growth

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The 20s are not a throwaway decade; they are the defining decade of your life.

The Defining Decade

By Meg Jay

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