In 'Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give,' Ada Calhoun explores the complexities of love, relationships, and the societal expectations around them through a series of poignant essays. With raw honesty, she reflects on her own experiences and the stories of others, unraveling the myths of fairy-tale romances. Calhoun challenges readers to reconsider what it means to truly celebrate love amidst life's imperfections and challenges. This book is a heartfelt and insightful dive into the nuances of commitment, vulnerability, and self-discovery. Join her on a journey that promises not just laughter and tears, but also a profound sense of connection.
By Ada Calhoun
Published: 2018
"Love is not a fairy tale; it’s a series of messy moments that bring us closer together."
Seven essays celebrating the beauty of the imperfect marriage. We hear plenty about whether or not to get married, but much less about what it takes to stay married. Clichés around marriage—eternal bliss, domestic harmony, soul mates—leave out the real stuff. After marriage you may still want to sleep with other people. Sometimes your partner will bore the hell out of you. And when stuck paying for your spouse’s mistakes, you might miss being single. In Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give, Ada Calhoun presents an unflinching but also loving portrait of her own marriage, opening a long-overdue conversation about the institution as it truly is: not the happy ending of a love story or a relic doomed by high divorce rates, but the beginning of a challenging new chapter of which “the first twenty years are the hardest.” Calhoun’s funny, poignant personal essays explore the bedrooms of modern coupledom for a nuanced discussion of infidelity, existential anxiety, and the many other obstacles to staying together. Both realistic and openhearted, Wedding Toasts I’ll Never Give offers a refreshing new way to think about marriage as a brave, tough, creative decision to stay with another person for the rest of your life. “What a burden,” Calhoun calls marriage, “and what a gift.”
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“Love is not a fairy tale; it’s a series of messy moments that bring us closer together.”
Wedding Toasts I'll Never Give
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Ada Calhoun is a celebrated author and essayist known for her incisive exploration of contemporary culture, identity, and the complexities of modern womanhood. Her notable works include 'Why We Can't Sleep: Women's New Midlife Crisis', which offers a compelling look into the struggles of Generation X women, and 'Also a Poet', a biography of the poet David Berman that intertwines personal narrative with literary analysis. Calhoun's writing style is marked by its sharp wit, honesty, and a keen observational ability, making her an essential voice in today's literary landscape.
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