In 'Why Won't You Apologize?', psychologist Harriet Lerner delves into the complex dynamics of apology and forgiveness. With profound insights, she reveals why so many struggle to say they're sorry and the psychological barriers that often prevent genuine apologies. Each chapter is filled with anecdotes and research, making readers re-evaluate their own approaches to conflict and reconciliation. Lerner empowers us to break free from the toxic cycles of shame and resentment, offering practical tools to foster authentic connections. This compelling exploration encourages introspection and inspires a journey towards healing and understanding.
By Harriet Lerner
Published: 2017
""An apology is not just about saying 'I'm sorry.' It's about understanding the impact of our actions and mending the bonds of trust that hold us together.""
The best-selling author of The Dance of Anger shares insight into the role of apologies in healing broken connections and restoring trust, sharing compelling case stories and tested theories that explain how to craft a meaningful apology while avoiding choices that deepen original injuries.
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“"An apology is not just about saying 'I'm sorry.' It's about understanding the impact of our actions and mending the bonds of trust that hold us together."”
Why Won't You Apologize?
By Harriet Lerner
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Harriet Lerner is a renowned clinical psychologist and author best known for her contributions to the field of psychology and women's studies. With a career spanning over four decades, she has published several influential books, including 'The Dance of Anger', 'The Dance of Connection', and 'The Dance of Intimacy'. Lerner's writing is characterized by its empathetic approach, blending psychological insights with practical advice, making her work accessible to a wide audience. She is celebrated for her ability to address complex emotional issues with clarity and wisdom, empowering readers to understand their relationships and navigate their emotional landscapes.
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