Passages
In 'Passages', Gail Sheehy explores the transformative stages of adult life, revealing the hidden challenges and opportunities that shape our identities. Drawing on interviews and extensive research, she outlines the critical psychological shifts that occur during key life transitions. Each "passage" is a quest for self-discovery, where rejuvenation and crisis intertwine. With insightful anecdotes and a compelling narrative, this book uncovers the universal truths of human experience. Readers are left pondering: are we truly prepared for the inevitable changes that lie ahead?
By Gail Sheehy
Published: 2006
""The key to a fulfilling life is to embrace change and to understand that every passage shapes who we are and who we can become.""
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At last, this is your story. You'll recognize yourself, your friends, and your loves. You'll see how to use each life crisis as an opportunity for creative change -- to grow to your full potential. Gail Sheehy's brilliant road map of adult life shows the inevitable personality and sexual changes we go through in our 20s, 30s, 40s, and beyond. The Trying 20s -- The safety of home left behind, we begin trying on life's uniforms and possible partners in search of the perfect fit. The Catch 30s -- illusions shaken, it's time to make, break, or deepen life commitments. The Forlorn 40s -- Dangerous years when the dreams of youth demand reassessment, men and women switch characteristics, sexual panic is common, but the greatest opportunity for self-discovery awaits. The Refreshed (or Resigned) 50s -- Best of life for those who let go old roles and find a renewal of purpose.
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Gail Sheehy
Gail Sheehy was a renowned American author and journalist, best known for her groundbreaking work, 'Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life,' which explores the stages and transitions of adulthood. Born on November 27, 1937, she gained acclaim for her insightful analysis of the human experience, combining personal narratives with sociological research. Sheehy's writing style is characterized by its accessible prose and deep psychological insights, making complex themes approachable for a broad audience. Beyond 'Passages,' her notable works include 'The Silent Passage,' focusing on menopause, and 'Sex and the Seasoned Woman,' which challenges societal norms around aging and sexuality. Throughout her career, Sheehy's contributions to literature and journalism have inspired many to reflect on their life's journeys and personal growth.
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- Authors
- Gail Sheehy
- Published
- January 2006
- Publisher
- Ballantine Books
- ISBN
- 034547922X
- Language
- English
- Pages
- 578
- Genres
- Mental HealthSelf-HelpPsychologyPersonal Growth
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