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By Terrence Real
Published: 1998
""The true source of our struggle lies not in the events we face but in the stories we tell ourselves about those events.""
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“"The true source of our struggle lies not in the events we face but in the stories we tell ourselves about those events."”
I Don't Want to Talk About It
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Terrence Real is a renowned author, psychotherapist, and speaker, best known for his influential works in the field of relationships and men's issues. His notable books include 'I Don't Want to Talk About It,' which addresses men's depression, 'The New Rules of Marriage,' and 'How Can I Get Through to You?,' emphasizing the importance of emotional honesty in relationships. Real's writing style is characterized by its practical insights, compassionate approach, and a blend of personal anecdote with psychological theory, aiming to foster understanding and lasting change in interpersonal dynamics.
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